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Wife Is Shocked by Secrets in Suitcase

TAY, Ann Landers

Dear Man:

In 1955 I married a man I though I knew very well. Six months ago I discovered a side of him that has left me dazed and shocked.

About two years ago he bae ame involved in a theater group. Every Monday night he had to

attend reANN LANDERS hearsals. I became suspicious when, after two years of "rehearsals," it occurred. to me that this group had never put on a performance.

One morning while he was at work I jimmied the lock on his wardrobe suitcase and discovered a fancy assortment of women's clothes. I realized then that my husband was a transvestite.

When I faced him with the evidence, he admitted everything—said it has been going on since his teens. He insists it is a harmless form of recreation, swears he is not a homosexual and even

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named two prominent men in town who are members of the "rehearsal group.' Eight men (or whatever you want to call them), rent a hotel suite once a week. They sit around in the dresses and high heels, have a few drinks and play cards.

We have a good sex life and two sons. No one would guess my husband has these tendencies. He is normal in every other way. My questions are as follows: (A) Would psychiatric help cure him? He insists he is not sick and that this quirk is no worse than being hooked on skiing or golf. (B) Should I contact the wives of the oththem how they live with the er men in the group and ask problem? (C) How can I be sure our two sons will not inherit their father's tendency? Mrs. Oddball

Dear Mrs.:

(A) Psychiatric help will not help a person who does not believe he needs help. (B) Leave the other wives alone. Knowing what you know won't help them. (C)

Encourage your husband to spend time with his sons, to take them bowling, skating, swimming. Have him play ball with them and participate in male-type activities which they can imitate.